Do you remember Marc (aka Valintine's Day)? We dated for a hot second in February and March 2009 then we attempted to remain friends with a side of benifits. You also may remember a few post in January about Marc. I made the mistake of I asked him to get back together. He waited a month to tell me he didn't know how to respond. He randomly contacted me in March but it didn't go anywhere.
Last week, during my freak out, I contacted Marc. "Hanging out" with Marc was always my fall back after every bad date or breakup. I was expecting to end things with Mr.Clean so the logical thing was to contact Marc.
Tonight Marc picked me up for dinner. There were a few things I noticed...1. he had an awful haircut, 2.his car was a mess, 3. he smelled like pot. I should have turned around then. We went dinner where he proceeded to eat two cheeseburgers (because he was high). He told me he was taking a quarter off from school to "find himself". He was planning on spending the summer driving around the country and getting high. I was shocked. The guy I dated last year was focused and driven...he was planning on getting his bachelors in computer science. The guy sitting across from me wasn't sure if he was going to finished his associates degree. He certainly turned into a real winner.
We finished our dinner and came back to my place (not before he got high in his car outside my apartment). We watched a movie then he left. We hugged goodbye and that was the end of it. Thinking about it now, a few hours later, I'm kind of glad we had dinner. It's good to know that I'm not missing anything. This is one old habit already dead and that needs to stay buried.
Hazel E. Long
My Grandmother looking beautiful.
Sunday, May 30, 2010
Saturday, May 29, 2010
Rule #1: Use Spell and Grammar Check
I know how much everyone loves my random creepy messages. Here's a great one!
hey, im goin to be right to the point and you probably feel the same thing so let me no,i think you are pretty and i would like to chat and see if we could have something incomin but if im not your type tell me straight up,i dont like stuck up,to good for a average man gurl,im funny and real,i speak my mind and bye this you should no im very forward,so if im cute and you think so im if not good luck and hope you have a wonderful day beautiful!!! -This one seems like a nice guy but dude SPELL CHECK!
Wow, what a pretty girl way up there in the northlands! Anyway, I wanted to say hello. I figure we could at least be friends here on line even if nothing else. I hope I figured right and that I hear from you. - Did I meantion this guy is 62 and from South Carolina...um yeah.
Hi how are you? I enjoyed reading your profile and I must say, you are very pretty. I was wondering if you are interested in talking and getting to know each other. I hope you don't reject me because of my age. I am mature for my age but if you would rather be just friends then I can live with that too. Friends are better than nothing. I hope to hear from you soon. -He is 20 years old...um no.
I just got out of a relationship so I am looking for a friends w benefits thing not really hoping for more. -At least he's direct?
hey, im goin to be right to the point and you probably feel the same thing so let me no,i think you are pretty and i would like to chat and see if we could have something incomin but if im not your type tell me straight up,i dont like stuck up,to good for a average man gurl,im funny and real,i speak my mind and bye this you should no im very forward,so if im cute and you think so im if not good luck and hope you have a wonderful day beautiful!!! -This one seems like a nice guy but dude SPELL CHECK!
Wow, what a pretty girl way up there in the northlands! Anyway, I wanted to say hello. I figure we could at least be friends here on line even if nothing else. I hope I figured right and that I hear from you. - Did I meantion this guy is 62 and from South Carolina...um yeah.
Hi how are you? I enjoyed reading your profile and I must say, you are very pretty. I was wondering if you are interested in talking and getting to know each other. I hope you don't reject me because of my age. I am mature for my age but if you would rather be just friends then I can live with that too. Friends are better than nothing. I hope to hear from you soon. -He is 20 years old...um no.
I just got out of a relationship so I am looking for a friends w benefits thing not really hoping for more. -At least he's direct?
Monday, May 24, 2010
Things I Wish I'd Known About Dating When I Was 21
A friend of mine sent this to me. I found it to be eyeopening. Enjoy!
At 31, dating blogger Erin Meanley looks back and shares 31 dating truths she wishes she had known ten years earlier...
1. If you're confused about whether a guy likes you or not, that's probably not good. Confusion in romance belongs only in romantic comedies because it suspends the plot, but suspense in real life sucks. So try not to analyze the events. The truth will reveal itself without you having to do anything.
2. Sometimes guys flirt with you or pay attention to you because it makes them feel good about themselves. (Hey, we do it, too.)
3. Even a guy who will admit that you're better looking than him should still be able to tell you you're beautiful. If he holds back in order to control the situation, or to keep you, or keep you down, he's got issues.
4. Don't help him ask you out by texting him something nice or polite. I'm glad you're more outgoing and thoughtful than he is, but he doesn't want the help.
5. Guys want to get busy more than anything. They'll say anything to close the deal.
6. It's shocking how much guys will talk about marriage. Until there's a ring on your finger, it will be better for you if you pretend you're deaf.
7. It's better not to lift a finger in the beginning.
8. In the early stages, giving him presents is too much. Generosity looks desperate to guys. You may be a great shopper and gift-wrapper; it may be his birthday and you may be wild about birthdays -- even still, he'll think you're just wild about him. Too wild.
9. Guys just do not think like girls. I wish I'd had a brother. Real boys are nothing like the boys in movies.
10. They might take a decade to mature. Don't hope they'll grow up or be ready in the next six months.
11. Even if your family thinks there's going to be a marriage, don't let them spoil your guy. Yes, he's grateful you gave him your car when he moved out of NYC, but he would rather have had to work for it.
12. Learn to cook. Learn to cook well. I see now that it would have won me a lot of points. A LOT.
13. Just because he might be smarter than you or more talented at certain things doesn't mean he's your servant and won't mind doing all your homework/research/chores.
14. Guys get resentful, too.
15. You're special, unique, and important, but you're not a princess -- no matter what Daddy says (although for the record, my dad calls me "Erin").
16. It's okay to say no. It's more than okay. It's always okay. If he stops calling (and many, many, many will), you're only weeding out the guys who aren't truly interested in you as a person. Time saved!
17. Playing it safe guarantees you'll have more time and energy to think about your grades or your work. Less drama in your life will always be better and healthier for you.
18. You deserve to be treated like a human being.
19. Your wants and needs are just as important as his, and if you don't express them because you think it will scare him away, then you're saying you don't count as much as he does.
20. Even sophisticated people with professional jobs can have tempers or hit you or use foul language. I've known men who dressed like diplomats but they were ugly human beings.
21. You can't force chemistry. If you like him as a friend, the attraction might grow, but if it doesn't, don't force it. And don't waste his time.
22. Ease up on the sauce. Alcohol clouds your judgment.
23. No boyfriend-girlfriend relationship starts with a 1 a.m. text.
24. When a guy has taken you to Applebee's five times and you say you want to treat him, he'll
be psyched. But secretly he'll freak out if you take him to Ruth's Chris, even just the one teeny time. Don't try to match him one Ruth's Chris for five Applebee's. Take him out, but go to T.G.I. Friday's.
25. Women love attention. A guy needs to be pretty crazy about you in order for him to pay enough attention to make you happy long-term.
26. My mom always said, "Men don't think." I thought she meant, "They are mistaken in their thoughts." But they're just not thinking anything at all. About you. They're watching the game. That's why they haven't called.
27. There should be a medium ground between workaholism and his absolute devotion. "The knight departing for new adventures offends his lady, yet she has nothing but contempt for him if he remains at her feet" (Simone de Beauvoir, "The Second Sex", 658).
28. Never underestimate the quality of "interesting." Men want someone interesting. They really do. Find some hobbies.
29. What are you hoping to gain by hooking up with this guy? If the answer is "him," that's a bad deal for you. "The woman gives herself, the man adds to himself by taking her" (de Beauvoir, 659).
30. Expectations? They'll ruin every dating experience you have.
31. You will never understand men. Just try to understand yourself.
http://dating.personals.yahoo.com/singles/datingtips/89028/things-i-wish-id-known-about-dating-when-i-was-21
At 31, dating blogger Erin Meanley looks back and shares 31 dating truths she wishes she had known ten years earlier...
1. If you're confused about whether a guy likes you or not, that's probably not good. Confusion in romance belongs only in romantic comedies because it suspends the plot, but suspense in real life sucks. So try not to analyze the events. The truth will reveal itself without you having to do anything.
2. Sometimes guys flirt with you or pay attention to you because it makes them feel good about themselves. (Hey, we do it, too.)
3. Even a guy who will admit that you're better looking than him should still be able to tell you you're beautiful. If he holds back in order to control the situation, or to keep you, or keep you down, he's got issues.
4. Don't help him ask you out by texting him something nice or polite. I'm glad you're more outgoing and thoughtful than he is, but he doesn't want the help.
5. Guys want to get busy more than anything. They'll say anything to close the deal.
6. It's shocking how much guys will talk about marriage. Until there's a ring on your finger, it will be better for you if you pretend you're deaf.
7. It's better not to lift a finger in the beginning.
8. In the early stages, giving him presents is too much. Generosity looks desperate to guys. You may be a great shopper and gift-wrapper; it may be his birthday and you may be wild about birthdays -- even still, he'll think you're just wild about him. Too wild.
9. Guys just do not think like girls. I wish I'd had a brother. Real boys are nothing like the boys in movies.
10. They might take a decade to mature. Don't hope they'll grow up or be ready in the next six months.
11. Even if your family thinks there's going to be a marriage, don't let them spoil your guy. Yes, he's grateful you gave him your car when he moved out of NYC, but he would rather have had to work for it.
12. Learn to cook. Learn to cook well. I see now that it would have won me a lot of points. A LOT.
13. Just because he might be smarter than you or more talented at certain things doesn't mean he's your servant and won't mind doing all your homework/research/chores.
14. Guys get resentful, too.
15. You're special, unique, and important, but you're not a princess -- no matter what Daddy says (although for the record, my dad calls me "Erin").
16. It's okay to say no. It's more than okay. It's always okay. If he stops calling (and many, many, many will), you're only weeding out the guys who aren't truly interested in you as a person. Time saved!
17. Playing it safe guarantees you'll have more time and energy to think about your grades or your work. Less drama in your life will always be better and healthier for you.
18. You deserve to be treated like a human being.
19. Your wants and needs are just as important as his, and if you don't express them because you think it will scare him away, then you're saying you don't count as much as he does.
20. Even sophisticated people with professional jobs can have tempers or hit you or use foul language. I've known men who dressed like diplomats but they were ugly human beings.
21. You can't force chemistry. If you like him as a friend, the attraction might grow, but if it doesn't, don't force it. And don't waste his time.
22. Ease up on the sauce. Alcohol clouds your judgment.
23. No boyfriend-girlfriend relationship starts with a 1 a.m. text.
24. When a guy has taken you to Applebee's five times and you say you want to treat him, he'll
be psyched. But secretly he'll freak out if you take him to Ruth's Chris, even just the one teeny time. Don't try to match him one Ruth's Chris for five Applebee's. Take him out, but go to T.G.I. Friday's.
25. Women love attention. A guy needs to be pretty crazy about you in order for him to pay enough attention to make you happy long-term.
26. My mom always said, "Men don't think." I thought she meant, "They are mistaken in their thoughts." But they're just not thinking anything at all. About you. They're watching the game. That's why they haven't called.
27. There should be a medium ground between workaholism and his absolute devotion. "The knight departing for new adventures offends his lady, yet she has nothing but contempt for him if he remains at her feet" (Simone de Beauvoir, "The Second Sex", 658).
28. Never underestimate the quality of "interesting." Men want someone interesting. They really do. Find some hobbies.
29. What are you hoping to gain by hooking up with this guy? If the answer is "him," that's a bad deal for you. "The woman gives herself, the man adds to himself by taking her" (de Beauvoir, 659).
30. Expectations? They'll ruin every dating experience you have.
31. You will never understand men. Just try to understand yourself.
http://dating.personals.yahoo.com/singles/datingtips/89028/things-i-wish-id-known-about-dating-when-i-was-21
Saturday, May 22, 2010
Are You In or Out?
I haven't heard from Mr.Clean in two days and I'm starting to freak. Ok...let's be honest, I started to freak two days ago...now I'm on overdrive.
I saw him Tuesday. His plans got cancelled so we went to a late movie. After the movie he came over and ended up staying the night. He texted me Wednesday saying he had a good time. I texted him back and never got a response (let the freaking out begin). Thursday morning he texted me saying he had just gotten back from the doctor and he had strep throat so he needed to reschedule our date. I said that was fine and I understood. No text back. I didn't contact him at all on Friday. I texted him this morning saying that I hoped he was feeling better. No response as of 2:47pm... overdrive freak-out.
I'm really not sure what to think or what to do. How can we be fine one second then he be MIA the next? Is he blowing me off? If he is, I have no idea where it is coming from. I felt like he was in this just as much as me. So what do I do? Just let him slip away? Do I call him out on it? They say men run when they are "scared" of their feelings...is that the case? I just want to know....are you in this with me or are you out? Be a man and tell me!
I saw him Tuesday. His plans got cancelled so we went to a late movie. After the movie he came over and ended up staying the night. He texted me Wednesday saying he had a good time. I texted him back and never got a response (let the freaking out begin). Thursday morning he texted me saying he had just gotten back from the doctor and he had strep throat so he needed to reschedule our date. I said that was fine and I understood. No text back. I didn't contact him at all on Friday. I texted him this morning saying that I hoped he was feeling better. No response as of 2:47pm... overdrive freak-out.
I'm really not sure what to think or what to do. How can we be fine one second then he be MIA the next? Is he blowing me off? If he is, I have no idea where it is coming from. I felt like he was in this just as much as me. So what do I do? Just let him slip away? Do I call him out on it? They say men run when they are "scared" of their feelings...is that the case? I just want to know....are you in this with me or are you out? Be a man and tell me!
Monday, May 17, 2010
Moving In Slow Motion
I don't really have much to update. I'm still talking to Mr.T and Mr.Clean and Verizon is thanking me. My cell phone bill is through the roof because of all the text messages.
Mr.T and I are still attempting to schedule a second date. He is having troubles with the house he just bought so I'm giving him some space to do that.
Mr.Clean and I are doing well. Dinner at my house was really nice and I enjoy spending time with him. I'm still a little worried that we are moving too fast but I'm not really doing anything to slow us down. We talk all the time and I count the days until I see him again. I know what you're thinking...yes, I really do like him. I understand that but I can't get ahead of myself. The key is taking it one day at a time and to not freak out. At this point in the relationship, I have a tendency to freak out. I know, shocking that I freak out when it comes to relationships. Deep breathe...I will not freak out, I will not freak out.
Mr.T and I are still attempting to schedule a second date. He is having troubles with the house he just bought so I'm giving him some space to do that.
Mr.Clean and I are doing well. Dinner at my house was really nice and I enjoy spending time with him. I'm still a little worried that we are moving too fast but I'm not really doing anything to slow us down. We talk all the time and I count the days until I see him again. I know what you're thinking...yes, I really do like him. I understand that but I can't get ahead of myself. The key is taking it one day at a time and to not freak out. At this point in the relationship, I have a tendency to freak out. I know, shocking that I freak out when it comes to relationships. Deep breathe...I will not freak out, I will not freak out.
Monday, May 10, 2010
The Update
I know I’ve been MIA for the past week or so…I’ve been a little busy. Besides my bestie from Cleveland visiting, I’ve been going a on a few dates.
Mr.T and I have been talking and are planning on going out to dinner on Thursday. He is still a great guy; I’m just waiting for the spark. Maybe there will be a spark on Thursday…Thursdays are good date days for me.
There is a new guy who I don’t know if I’ve mentioned yet. His name is John but I’m going to call him Mr.Clean. He is bald and buff with amazing blue eyes. There are a few yellow flags about Mr.Clean… he has two kids and is divorced. The yellow flags, however, are being overshadowed by the fact that I am really attracted to him. I mean besides being physically attracted to him, he is really smart. I like talking to him and hearing what he has to say. I just hope he feels the same way about me. Our first date was dinner and a walk around the park last Thursday. Sunday was lunch and a movie. Tomorrow, I’m making him dinner. I like spending time with him but is it too fast? I’m just trying not to get ahead of myself.
There are also a few new guys I’ve been talking to but nothing major to share. I’ll keep you posted.
Mr.T and I have been talking and are planning on going out to dinner on Thursday. He is still a great guy; I’m just waiting for the spark. Maybe there will be a spark on Thursday…Thursdays are good date days for me.
There is a new guy who I don’t know if I’ve mentioned yet. His name is John but I’m going to call him Mr.Clean. He is bald and buff with amazing blue eyes. There are a few yellow flags about Mr.Clean… he has two kids and is divorced. The yellow flags, however, are being overshadowed by the fact that I am really attracted to him. I mean besides being physically attracted to him, he is really smart. I like talking to him and hearing what he has to say. I just hope he feels the same way about me. Our first date was dinner and a walk around the park last Thursday. Sunday was lunch and a movie. Tomorrow, I’m making him dinner. I like spending time with him but is it too fast? I’m just trying not to get ahead of myself.
There are also a few new guys I’ve been talking to but nothing major to share. I’ll keep you posted.
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