Is that even really dating? I am normally against conversations via text message and most people know this about me. If the conversation is over 5 text message back and forth... then we should talk on the phone. With this guy it was different, the texts were like mini conversations that we would carry on all day.
Let me backup. I met this guy about a month ago while I was at the bar with friends. His name is Andy aka "Txt Guy". He seemed like a nice guy. He was cute (or at least I remember thinking he was cute) and he bought me a beer. We exchanged numbers and last names. He texted me the next days and we've been texting ever since. Oh and we're friends on MySpace.
So back to the text messages.... recently, the conversations have become a chore. When my phone beeps, I hope that it's not him. I know what you're thinking, its because of James. It's not because of James. I've been thinking about this for over a week. My responses have been less frequent and I'm "busy" so I can't text all day. There have also been some "red flags". He doesn't really have a job. He has "lot of options" that include a house painting business, construction work, and steel work. He didn't finish college and isn't really planning on going back. He lives with him mom in the country or what he calls "hillbilly heaven". Please know, that I am not a snob. High maintenance, yes but snob, no. If you like the country then more power to you, it's just not really for me.
The biggest red flag is that he hasn't asked me out. We met the one time but he hasn't really mentioned getting together again. I mean he'll ask me what I'm doing during the day but when I say I'm free he doesn't really say anything back. We just end up texting all night. Again, I know what you're thinking... he's got someone else but I really don't think so. I just don't get that vibe from him.
I'm not really sure what to do. I know I need to just end it, especially if I'm not really into it anymore. I just feel bad. Like what do I say? I don't like talking to you anymore so stop texting me? I think I'll sleep on it and possibly return the text message he sent me over 12 hours ago.
He asked me out Tuesday (without me saying anything) for when I get back from vacation. He didn't really have a plan, he just wanted to hangout. Yellow Flag. It helps if you actually sound like you want to go out with me. I don't really do "well... we'll figure something out".... I like a man with a plan.
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